0 Why Children Hate Their Parents: Issues among the Rich Families

Money inherited from the parents has great benefits and inherent wealth to the children.  But something may not be clear regarding the generational riches if the hard-earned money is passed on to the right hands.  Unfortunately, 75% of family business experiences failure to pass the big wealth to the coming generation.  The number for 2nd and 3rd generations makes it even more unsuccessful.  The reason is because children hate their parents for some reasons.

Anger between the children and the parents is more prevalent and stronger among rich

people.  The core issue is that unhealthy relationships are shaped in rich families.  One of the reasons is unresolved emotional issues.  The emotional element is not dealt with properly.  And the richer the family becomes, the more intense the problems will be. 

There are causes why kids keep grudges against their own parents.  Here are the three elements why rich children hate their parents. 

1.  Many rich families don’t say ‘NO.’ Rich families should understand the importance of saying “NO” to children.  Many rich parents do not say it actually and their kids grow up knowing they can have in their hands anything they want.  They think they get everything because they have the money and resources.  When they are outside the house and be with other people, the world will tell them ‘no.’ In case like this, they become upset and angry.  Through this they have hard feelings about their parents.

2.  Hard Working Parents.  Parents are highly dedicated to their career and through it they have lack of time and inability to be with their kids.  Rich people are absent most of the time making their children feel they are abandoned.  The moment parents understand this and make everything by giving material things, parents are actually adding insult to injury.  Kids simply become angrier.  Money is the bad currency to pay back wasted time. Parents should make up lost time with time.  Children hate their parents if the expression of love, which is time, is missing. 

3.  Finally, this is in connection with the rude world we have.  The society has the huge influence on the rich children.  The possibility that culture can make fun of kids is normally happening.   In order to give protection to their kids, parents tell them to cover or hide their possessions and riches.  This is normal to happen for those who are very young.  Due to this issue, children put the blame on their parents.  In most cases, unsettled anger can lead to the fruitless transfer of riches.  Can this be possible? Probably, yes!

Compared to non-rich families, there are less children who dislike their parents.  But there are still many grounds why children hate their parents and these can be common among families—whether rich or not.   

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0 Children Hate their Parents: 5 Valid Reasons Why Children Dislike their Parents

While there are many things parents don’t like about their kids, there are also valid reasons why children hate their parents.  It is illogical for parents who perceive that they are the only ones doing right and their kids are always the ones doing wrong.  Effective parenting is a two-sided relationship.  Both parents and children must work hand in hand in order to make their relationship grow.  There should be no opportunity to provoke and hate one another.

In this modern generation, one of the family issues is that kids don’t anymore respect their mothers and fathers--they hate them.  But how about us, are we aware that we should also respect and not hate our kids?  Often, parents complain about their children’s acts of stubbornness and disobedience.  Consequently, kids can hardly respect their parents and they tend to hate them instead.  Truth is many parents overlook their responsibility of nurturing their kids in caring ways.  They only see the authority they use to controlling them.  This sounds unfair for the kids, doesn't it?

Basis why Children may Hate Parents

1.    Over-protection does more harm than good.  Allow your child to discover new things on his own. Over-loving parents tend to over-protect their children in many ways--this can make kids to hate them.  Keep in mind that while a child continues to grow, he attempts to discover many things around him.   All kids have this natural inclination.  For younger boys, climbing up a small tree excites them.   You can provide useful tips on how to climb safely rather than restricting him.  So when the child climbs up again, he knows there are precautions to take. Children could hate a parent who is over-protective.  

2.    Unfulfilled promises.   There are situations that parents do promise things for their children.  The kids with all their efforts do their part.  When time comes, parents provide lots of excuses to break their promises.   If this happens, young kids may begin to hate them.  They won’t be convinced anymore that you can still keep your promise.  These unfulfilled promises are instilled in the child’s mind.  It is a hurtful experience when the people they trust can't keep their words.

3.    Frequent scolding is hateful.  You break their heart if you respond negatively while attempting to offer their help.  Kids want to please us in some small ways they can do, but how we ignore and hate their efforts.  Worse, they get unreasonably scolded rather than being appreciated and praised.  A husband and a wife are responsible to guide them into doing things right, not to verbally hate them when they create mistakes.  Be realistic that kids are too young to live by their parents’ standards.   Illogical anger is one thing kids hate about their parents. Parenting skills know how to discipline children without yelling and reprimanding.  

4.    Paying no attention.  There are times kids want to be proud of their own accomplishments.  They want their parents to get their approval and that they are achievers, too.  Never ignore your child’s great art work if he shows it.  It builds his self-worth and confidence if parents become happy for them.  On the contrary, children may hate their parents if you don’t always pay attention to their efforts.  They will have the impression that their works are not important to you.  Wouldn’t that be hateful for the little ones?

5.    Not doing what you teach.  Parents want their kids to be action doers but not for them.   This is one reason why children have the feelings of resentment.  They keep instructing their kids not to fight but aggressive blows are displayed by the father and mother.  Giving explanations is not helpful, showing your action does.   It is confusing for children not to fight if parents are quarrelsome and hate each other.  Kids view their parents as role models in every circumstance.

Although parents have the goals to go the other mile but it’s more likely for children to hate their parents for the above valid reasons.   So express your love by trying to avoid things they hate and  dislike.  For sure, you can win them back and earn their respect!


Post by:  GLENN SILVESTRE

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